How well a couple communicates not only predicts how a particular discussion will go, but also sets the tone for their entire relationship. When partners speak respectfully to each other they increase understanding, trust and positive connections. When couples speaks to each other in negative ways, frustration, conflict and avoidance quickly follows.

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Research Backed Predictors for Divorce

• Having more negativity than positivity in relationship communication

• Escalation of negative affect (to influence, impact or attack) towards spouse

• Couples using one or more of “The Four Horsemen” behaviors.

  • Defensiveness

  • Criticism

  • Content

  • Stonewalling)

• Continually scanning environment to see peoples mistakes and correct them

  • People who have this behavior with spouse also have it with their kids

• ​Emotional disengagement and withdrawal

• Will not accept influence from spouse

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Research Backed Predictors for successful marriage

• People who scan their environment to see what is going well

• They communicate appreciation and respect

• They say thank you

• They nurture (bring up, encourage) gratefulness versus resentment

• They are gentle with each other and take responsibility

• They focus on the positive emotions

• Accepts influence from spouse

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- (Gottman Institute Level 1 Training, 2016)

 

Whether you're learning healthy communication skills for the first time or working on changing the unhealthy habits you picked up during your marriage, our session discussions, exercises and homework will improve your communication skills, reduce arguments and allow for joy in your relationship.